Bucket list

A casual Sunday for me, the next day awaiting is my work. This is when I decided to watch the Marathi movie Bucket list.

The movie starring Madhuri Dixit was quite a good watch and thought-provoking.

Do you know what’s a bucket list?
Do you all have one bucket list?

Yea most of them have.
And they are the ones who can fulfill it.
But many like me..do not even have a bucket list…because we know it’s hard to get it done.

Most of our wishes are like “not expected from you ” invoking ones. This is where we stop and drop our pen.

But don’t you think, that our life is just a gift of a lifetime and we need to fulfill it with that ardent desire to keep ourselves happy.

I guess everyone should at least have a minimum of 10 wishes done and accomplished with a happy heart.

Let the weight of our happiness, drive us to fulfill our ardent desires.

Great a bucket list big or small that values to you.
Be your own boss.
Grab your dreams.
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Who am I??

Who am I?
I don’t look for a change sometimes?
But i do make a change sometimes.
I may not look for success.
But i succeed in a few.

I fail to impress a lot.
But i dont care, as i am not born to impress.
I don’t look for ways to succeed.
But i work harder to improve.

I don’t look for successful outreach
But i constantly work in my momentum.
I am not like what you expect.
I have the least expectations in myself.

Am i a secret to ponder..?
Or just a mirage.
That will disappear one day.

Do i care for the same..?
I am unsure.
All i know is that.
I love this moment.
And live it to the core.
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When I decided I no longer want to be just a Mom…

You can call me a feminist or whatever, it will never bother me because I know what i truly want. Being brought up by women who were working, i was always fond of being a working independent woman. But circumstances were hard and against me for years.

To escape from this self martyring motherhood, i chose to be in my early years of motherhood, just gave me nothing but I ended up in feeling unworthy of myself. This is when i decided it is high time babes, you have to move on.

Yes !! It is tough for any mom, but never think less of her.

Every working woman has to go through a saga of laments and hostile faces just to be what she wants in her life. Unlike men, women even now have to go through many unwanted dramas to gain their position.  And after all these selfless struggles what is she called – a feminist- in a bad sense.

It is as if, she has suppressed her fellow men’s’ rights and oppressed him to be a housemaid, as she was done every time.

Do you think its right?

No, never. She also has the right to dream, propel her career, and be a perfect example to her kids.  Actually, most men, (i am not accusing all, no maybe 10%)  are afraid that being enslaved when women start to work. We, women, are experts in handling ups and downs, thanks to the narrow-minded society we are grown up with, they always push the female down just as she is rising. Even getting a reservation based on being a woman is itself a degradation.

For me, my only aim to resume work was not just to be independent, I wanted my daughters to be able to think that being independent is important in life – and yes kids learn through examples, not just speeches.

When I decided I no longer want to be just a mom,  I had to go through many griefs, which never seems like melancholy for others.

When you are a mom, half of your heart resides in that child, you are constantly worried about the child, hence taking up a new responsibility is indeed like a mountain. She does require some help, but the moment she asks to shoulder the responsibility, Yea she is welcomed with a smile, but once the day 1 is half done, there comes the rebel act, insisting her to stop the career dreams. And followed by a great lecture on the importance of being a mom at home all along.

And their clean ball.. killed her dreams and courage she gathered up from months before even conveying the fact that she has a dream.

This happens everywhere, and I am no exception.

This is when i realized, that its just me, who has to run errands to work on my dream. Never expect a hand or a comforting word from anyone because, at one point, you will be blamed for all the things that happen.

Life is strange.

I never wanted to be a feminist, but after being a mother of two girls, my seeds of feminism that my past sow on me, bloomed. And now, I believe that every woman should be independent, and has her own life to life.

Earn it by hook or crook. It is again your choice.

So let’s all be those new gen moms, who believe that their daughters need not be married off early, their daughters need to earn like others(be it men or women), let their kids pursue their dreams and not being beaten down by the stereotype notions of the old society and be the ones who teach the kids be it boy or girl to be independent and supportive.

 

 

Beware I am ugly… The result of typecasting

Typecast.
We all typecast people based on appearance, status, income, jobs, and much more.
But why?
Especially when it comes to appearance, it strikes an uneven balance.
I remember the times when i was a kid, i was fairly a plump girl and being that i was always bullied all lot.
If i dont eat, i was bullied because they assumed i was showing off.
If i eat, then ..oh my god, why are you eating this much….slow down? Your age kids should eat less.

The next thing was my rabbit teeth. The moment i smile, i was told i look ugly..shut your mouth and just smile without showing your teeth.

Don’t wear tight clothes, you look horrible, wear loose and long ones so that your butt is hidden.
Also, they blamed me not wearing traditional wear, in my school farewell, when all the time they were bullying me for being fat.

My confused mind didn’t know what to follow.
I went on eating… without any guilt until i realized, i should take care of myself rather than listening to these bull shit around me.

Let me be ugly or beautiful, people never accepted me as who i am.

There was a time when i bothered it a lot. But now i care a little.

Dont go with appearance, we are not born to impress everyone.
And we are not instant noodles to become thin or beautiful instantly. Take care of your self, irrespective of what that idiota around you say.
Be who you are. Be proud of being you.
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Slow and steady

You need to make small and happy steps to move forward. It’s not easy, you might stumble and fall loose hope and courage to move … still, you need to ensure you dont give up.
Obstacles appear because you are truly working on it. Never give up on things that are appearing, they are just temporary obstacles..focus on your goals.

If we stop trying, how do we know what’s the result and what’s the best end to it.

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