Romance and Musings

Off to the park

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Summer has begun and its all fun time for kids, all bright and sunny around them with lots of time to play.

 Even though she plays a lot in her school, the moment she wakes from her sleep , she wanted to go out and play in the park , where her school friends will accompany her.She was all excited the first day , we were going to the park, after a long gap of the cold winters , we were going to have fun. 

I expected  her to jump around in happiness and play on slides , swings and sea saws ,but to my  disappointment  , she was just lingering around me itself. Then when her friends arrived , she was all excited, so i sent her to play with them , but , again , she would climb up and stand still there, and again run back down the steps, instead of sliding .

I was not sure what exactly was going on in her mind, then I accompanied her even though I wa scared of heights and sliding , I went for my daughter to give her more courage. I tried to make her sit , but she was not willing , and the truth was even I was scared , its funny but the truth. After making her sit next to me, I took her down the slide , once , twice and more , then I stopped and gave her a break. 

The first day was a failure, on the slide. But to my surprise , the second day , she went happily on to the slide, even though she called me to accompany her , I did not and let her do it alone. Seeing all other excited kids around , she got the enthusiasm to try the slide alone , and yes she did it all alone and came running to me and told ” mamma , we did it” .

And I was so pleased about myself and my lovely lil daughter.As a parent I withdrew on many things I wanted to do for her , but when her happiness was considered , I never put myself  away from trying. Hope I do that now and then to see my lovely kid happy.

Romance and Musings

Tantrum handling

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Its one of the most important thing in parenting , considering how to make kids listen to us .

Most of the time , they get irritated and fail to listen what exactly we want them to do or rather , we stop listening to what exactly they want us to give them.In such cases , its all a waste of energy to compel them to listen to us. 

Some try punishments like time out , or tell them if they behave badly , they will get bad punishment and many more. Punishments must be different for different kids , depending on their basic nature. All have a different aspect of looking into a particular matter , as how the adults differ in it , the same way kids also differ in it. Some kids need to learn through little bit of harshness or some others a simple way .

But to built a better person tomorrow , we need to be conscious about what we choose for them.When ever they do something good enough , reward them, so that they feel like doing more and more of such good deeds , but of-course we need to be cautious of what we are rewarding them with. Make them appreciate even the little things in life , so that later on they learn the value of what they have.

Even though am not an expert parent , am also learning how to control her tantrums , sometimes its difficult to handle and sometimes like miracles or magic, my daughter tend to listen to me and keep calm, as she knows that for patience she get rewarded with her favorite lollipops . 🙂 I love to see her happy and I always wanted her to listen to me , and not make a fuss  , and I always tried to keep up my promise on rewarding her. 

Parenting takes a lot of skill and patience and is constant work and growth.