Romance and Musings

Are you educated ?

A mom and daughter were in deep conversation about her daughter’s project. She was helping her kids with the day-to-day activities of the school. When suddenly her daughter asked ” mom, are you educated?” . The question was almost shocking. She was not sure what to say , cringed at the thought , what her Lil angel had asked. All she could recollect was the good old days of her successful career and education. She could recollect she was a topper in her class and everything she did, had received a loud applause. And here she is right in front of her daughter, puzzled.

A common question , one of the stay-at-home mom has to phase at one stage. It is easy at times to gulp in a little air of congestion that causes the turmoil of the question. But many questions pops in the mind of that puzzled mom ,

Why did she think that I wasn’t educated?

After numerous mentioning about her old times at workplace and colleges, what made her think that I was not educated?

What kind of impression am I giving my child?

It is a tough thing to explain the kid who is hardly seven years to know what her mom had done all these years. But for a mom, the question is surely heartbreaking. It happened to me quite some time back when my daughter asked me the same when she was hardly 5 years.

I felt , that am giving her a wrong notion , that only uneducated moms remain at home. It is not about education. It is about how much love and care we want to give them, that we chose to be at home, leaving all the ambitions thrown away just to be happy with or kids.

That was when , I decided I should opt for a job, that gives me a comfort at home as well as be with my angels. I remember the day when I conveyed the message to my darling that their mom is working , but from home. It was my sheer joy to tell them , that I am a working mom now. It just added a feather to my hat of satisfaction. The joy on her face was uncomparable.

For me as a mom, I want my kids to feel proud of what I am to them. I know it will happen one day , that kids will kind of repel from us, but again there is a stage in everyone’s life when kids need their mom more than anyone else in the world.

We as a mom, need to promise ourselves to be something beyond a household and inspire them to be strong women even if we are not career-oriented.

Romance and Musings

Mommies Stay Calm!!

“There is no one else who can help you other than yourself”

A quote somewhere I read keeps me motivated and high. To all those moms, who cry for care, attention and love . I guess the best way to get out of all these is to keep yourself busier but not exhausted.

Parenting is never easy, never approach the bumpy road assuming ,you won’t have pitfalls. It is quite normal for you as a mom to be imperfect. Imperfections make us stronger ,sharper and better. As we learn through every step in the life, we are not in downfall, we are creating a shelter for our own loved ones.

It is easy to criticize someone for their faults, it is not easy to rise out of criticism. So ignore the bad commenting you get on your parenting . As for me, every parent does their best to their kids, to make them unique.

When I was in my first parenthood season which is still ongoing , I encountered lots of problems. I remember the days I struggled with holding my baby properly. It is quite normal, handling a small life inside you and then in your hands is extremely tough.

I had struggled to help her walking , talking , playing , since I was not sure what I was supposed to do. I had to swim through judgments, hardly a few appreciations and lots of complaints. Still, motherhood is unique, which most of them don’t account for.

Sta calm!! Chill

You are the best for your child. None can replace a mom’s love and dad’s care in a child’s life.

Romance and Musings

Making an impression out of scrap

As I lay on the bed after all my tiring works and with swollen legs and a tiring body , I could just sink into sleeping, yet I kept my eyes wide awake and browsing through the pages of my work. Trying hard to focus. 

The more I try to be awake, the more I was feeling sleepier. Am not a person who can be wide awake(except for movies) , but am a person who wakes up early in the morning. I love early morning, the freshness , and the calmness (except for those howling dogs out in the area)  I feel mornings are a perfect time. The mind is fresh and the soul rejuvenated. 

As long as I can recall, the time when my mom was working and I was a kid ,I always admired her for her strengths, the ones which I wish to get inherited from her. The sad part is, am nowhere near to her in any of the qualities. I always carry around a “mom effect” , as soon as I stayed with her for few days. It doesn’t stay longer but still keeps me happier. 

Mom effect 

“A phenomenon wherein we usually tend to follow our mother’s footsteps, like waking up early in the morning, cleaning up well, getting organized and doing things in her style”

As I said , it doesn’t last longer. 

As soon as the effect is gone, am back to my abnormality. I wish I  was strong like her. She is an abode of talents to me ,someone I try to be but never can be.

The other times when I am not influenced by “mom effect” am always in the inertia state.The state continues until I have some external or internal forces. I don’t account if it is a normal thing, but I always have an adrenalin rush to get things done , only at the last moment. That moment I am able to do everything I thought might be impossible. 

Yes , indeed weird for me. 

That is the transition I have always.But the enthusiasm and the energy I gather at that time is always at the most. Being slow makes my tasks more laborious. Maybe I am someone who likes to work under pressure. 

It’s like am not a “Time management” expert, but someone running out of time. When I have more to do , I focus on my works and go for it. I get to plan things faster when am in the midst of chaos. I am not a “planner” , but someone who love to do things . The only aim, as I start doing will be the time I get to rest in the end. 
While focusing on “resting time” , I work harder, faster and better.

Whatever we do, do it with your whole heart filled with pleasure and happiness, the key to success is that .The change that I am working on myself as I am working on my effective 30s ,trying to make an impression out of my scrap.