I do it for myself

Sometimes speak for your self..if someone asks you why you need a job..tell them it’s for yourself.
Why you need to earn..? it’s for myself, to be independent.
Whatever you do, do it for yourself wholeheartedly.

If you marry a girl with a lot many dreams, watch her face, see when she is truly happy … Being independent or being dependent..watch the difference not through the blind eyes of society, but with eyes filled with love. If you find the difference, then be supportive.

Every girl should do something for her own self, not because she is selfish, because only when she is happy, people around her will be happy.
Every girl is brought up by her parents with the same amount of dreams, like any other boy, be someone who supports her like her parents.

It’s not just about girls, even boys have their dreams, dont burden them to be the sole breadwinner. As a woman, only you can support a man in what he does. Be the one who earns respect from him.

Every day does something, to keep your inner soul happy and satisfied.
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#dosomethingforyourself #idoformyself

Second chances

Chances.
Do we even look at it, worth giving a try?
Imagine a bird, who is locked up in its cage for a long time. And then suddenly, one fine day, its door is open and left open…
Will it be scared to take the flight?
Happy being inside the cage, as it offers the safety it gets.
Or is it going through a dilema..whether to fly or not.?

Some people, go through the same stage..when they arrive at second chances. After years of suppressing their desires, giving up their dreams at just one stroke, suddenly when they get a chance..they do not know they should take up or not…their mind gets clouded

For a woman, a second chance means a lot..but when she loses her will to pursue, she needs someone to assure her fully that everything will be taken care of, and take away the burden from her thoughts…She needs that sort of comforting words. It is not easy for her too, but never let her give up.

Give her a second chance.
A chance to gather what she lost once. Not all men can do the support, only the men who truly consider that her dreams are equivalent to his can. It is too heavy for a narrow-minded man to gather the courage to let her go to pursue her dreams.

Be the man, she desire, who values her as who she is.
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#secondchances #pursuedreams #betheman

Don’t typecast

Girls are not someones lucky charm of somethings that people assume. If she wants to stay fit and fine or dress up or may just enjoy being herself or pursue what she likes, it’s her choice. She is not doing kt to grab attention or show someone she is good. It might be her personal choice.  Respect her as an individual, she is not any guys lucky charm or anything like a jewel to be flaunted.
She does whatever she likes to feel confident about. So respect her for what she is not something…like whom she belongs to.
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Be a listener to your child too

Forget a lot many dreams, what about just one dream, how a normal, average family can fulfill just one of her random wishes.

When I watched the movie “KAPPELA” (Malayalam), it triggered my thoughts. How a girl from a small town comes to a city just to meet a stranger. Strangely she confesses her dreams to an unknown person and only her friend to see a beach. And then she ends up in troubles unimaginable.

Why couldn’t she even ask her parents?

Why she had to even depend on a guy from outside or someone, not her family?

The movie also portrays the scene when the father beats up the little sister, without even asking her an explanation, assuming that she did wrong. Does really beating up, bring up the right kind of well-behaved, girl child. No, you can also instill trust in them, a feeling that no matter what, happens, their parents are strong enough to support them.

Why does a little baby, clings to their mother, all the time, because it trusts the mother. A caregiving hand, which protects her, the baby can even blindly cling to its mom, no matter what happens, because it knows, that protection is intact.  But as it grows up, the child loses that grip with the parents, when it was abandoned even once for a single moment knowingly or unknowingly.

Restore that trust in your child, else you lose them.

Is it a mistake or a strict parenting method?

I do not know. But I feel that it is important for families to give space to their kids to explain their dreams, desires, and needs. Else kids have a tendency to walk to a stranger, who might be a danger or a blessing.

It is not about a city or town, parents who are so glued to their work-life forget that their children for whom they are brooding all the money for, also want them to talk to them and share some time with them.

We can see parents are mostly hardworking and spending each penny carefully, but they are too strict with the kids that make them much more vulnerable. Parents assume that being strict is good, but sometimes, they need to place themselves in their kid’s minds and see what they might need from you.

Some parents, they beat up the girl child, for just talking to boys. Talking never harms or causes any problem, but the child begins to wonder why she was beaten up for doing nothing. This gets rooted in her mind. And since the human mind is more inclined to do wrong things (labeled by society), they tend to do it much more to agitate their anger and frustration.

The child becomes secluded and stops sharing even the tiniest desire they have because they are scared of being judged or scolded or even punished. They start to hide, as their tiniest desires are never being heard and then begins the time when they find their own way out.

Parenting is hard and complicated. , but not impossible.

Be the parent who can help the child open up to you than anyone else. Be the friend who they need and want.

Most of the girls tend to be quiet and start to hide everything from the parents, when they feel that they are judged.  Be the one who listens to her dream or even walks with her to fulfill it. We may not know what things pop up in life, but always, be a good listener. Listen to your child’s argument before jumping into the conclusion. Open up for a healthy discussion- means a clear wheel of conversation wherein you just don’t talk alone but discuss and let the other person put in their share of words too.

Your child may be small, but learn to give your ear to them. Once ignored, they are never going to back.

 

Being her

She was stoned for being different.
Blamed being a different shade. …
All she did was she fell in love with life with everything she saw..
She cherished every moment, without judging it to be right or wrong.
She was never in her tribe, but with the wanderers…
As they showed her the dreams, she wanted.
Her tribe unwelcomed her, every time.
Hence she became, what she actually wants.
She was a free bird.
But chained to the soil, for all unwanted reasons…
Her tribe was jealous of her freedom,
And she was caged again.
Gluing her to the deeply rooted illusions of life.
And there she remained.
Greying until death…
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