Mommy musings, Musing and Thoughts, Romance and Musings

OH MY CHILLIES – YOU ARE HOT

One of my fav ingredient in cooking is green chillies. Today I got a chance to write about it and to my surprise, I was open to various other insights on the same.

So here I am sharing with you a few interesting ones.

Please click on the link to read further.

https://candlesonline.wordpress.com/2019/07/09/oh-my-chillies-you-are-hot/

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Green slender ones, it impresses me as nothing else does. Yes, I am referring to chillies. You might wonder, what makes me so fond of chilli. If you ever take a look into my fridge, and even my balcony garden, you will find chillies everywhere.

My first encounter with Chilli

It was when I was a kid, I used to notice my mom, add these green chillies to the coconut chutney my mom makes. The tinge of green that it brings to the chutney was something impressive.

As I grew up, these chillies became a part of my cooking. There was not even a dish, without chillies I cooked. Even the red ones also took my heart, when it comes to taste. In Kerala, whenever we make tapioca especially the boiled ones, we have the green chillies (tiny ones) with shallots and yes it tastes…

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CHOOSE A LIFESTYLE YOU WANT – NOT OTHERS

SoulRecitals | Lifestyle choices | Being Writer
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“Ah !! I guess I will choose that style, it seems fab and is trendy .” – This is what I keep telling my self, whenever I see someones style. I keep forgetting how I look like and then try to be like others.

Here are my struggles to finally choosing what Lifestyle I wished to adopt in my life.

via CHOOSE A LIFESTYLE YOU WANT – NOT OTHERS

SoulRecitals is my evolution as a poetess. Being in love writing about passion, romance, motherhood and unending love is something which led to “SoulRecitals“. It is again one choice I did for myself.

It is hard at times to be what we want to be, but it is not impossible. Just truly wish for it.

Feel Free to browse my poetry.

Writing is like Elixir to Me.

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Effective ways to cope failure in life

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Have you ever thought about being a failure in life?

It is indeed quite a burdening thought when it comes to life. It makes us feel like we are true burdens for others. A moment which shatters all the smiles around us. Mostly it happens as a result of postpartum depression or sometimes when we are stressed a lot.

Stress, to mind, is like cocaine to the brain, it brightens the illusions in our mind, causing us to forcefully think of being an utter waste in life. It is hard to digest sometimes, that even the healthy-looking person can be infected by such thoughts.

Anyways, there are no easy escapes, but quite a few tried and tested ones by myself and few I have always observed in others.

First of all, why do we get such a feeling of being a failure?

It is quite easy,

1.Firstly we always see ourselves, through the eyes of others.
2.Secondly, we judge our own capability.
3.Thirdly we assume we cannot do it or even try anything.
4.Finally, we suppress ourselves under a fear unknown.

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So, you see, it’s not an uncommon thing, everyone has a bit of this in them. You might assume that the successful ones are those who are not affected, but it is not right. They are successful because they fight these tiny demons in them and we, on the other hand, let the demon overpower us.

The sense of being a failure, is quite common in mothers, as the so-called expert mothers -who brand themselves as experts -downgrade the others. Actually it would be better to think none of us is perfect – actually, the children are perfect themselves. Again I am not blaming mothers, I just mentioned that when kids make it easier, parenting just eases and eventually streamline other activities.

When one woman has to undergo the change from a girl to a mother, she is quite surprised as well as alert. She becomes unsure about things related to her and as well as the baby. Giving them sufficient time would be ideal. God didn’t choose randomly for women to be mothers – they are actually crafted for the same, so any woman irrespective of age – turns into a mother when these hormonal changes happen.

Now how do we go about dealing with such negative feelings?

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Again it is not easy as pie. One needs to focus on many tiny aspects to bring out a big change. Some practices can make you actually feel good.

  1.   Keep yourself busy.
    2. Keep away from conversation wherein you are sure to be pinpointed. As those who pinpoint just enjoy doing it, irrespective of you being the “centre of attraction”.
    3. Better to do give yourself a break and take up “me time”.
    4. Being a mother is not the first thing happening in the universe, you are just among one in many, hence don’t stress, we all learn from mistakes.
    5.  Accept criticism positively, some are actually an eye opener, again depends on whom you are giving your ears too.
    6.  Take things slowly, give yourself time – we are not born Micheal Jackson to dance away easily.
    7.  Accept failures, there is nothing wrong in it.
    8.  Never give up.
    9.  Keep trying
    10. Keep trying…
    Again, just to put it clearly, I am not an expert too, but all I do is keep looping in the last point in my article – “keep trying “.

All the best to everyone, who are keeping up well and best of luck to all those who want to succeed in life. Every small tiny step counts, so take it – let it lead you to success that none foresee you can ever accomplish.

Further reading

How to overcome the thought of being a failure.

A Work from home mothers struggle.

Effective ways to cope up with failures in life.

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MY LIFE IS THE CANVAS, WHICH THEY COLOURED WELL

This week we were given pictures and had to write on that basis. I was given this:

And it brought me thoughts on my own gems – my daughters.

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Mommy musings, Musing and Thoughts, Romance and Musings

A pearl that is born out of our core

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Fragrance of flowers

still lingers on us,

like the petals

containing the dew of the first rain

I saved the drops of our love,

in a wish to gift you a pearl;

a pearl, that contains the

the beauty of our core,

which imprints our love

filling in every vein with us

and Just us.