Category Archives: Mommy musings

Being mom, I am clouded with lots of musings. Here I share them.

Turning 35 !!

 

Ageing is fun I  believe !!

I was never worried about getting older, I just had some blurred thoughts on how will be able to handle myself then.

Five years back I wrote about turning 30 and my accomplishments. It made me feel great.  It was the time, I was confined to be a homemaker with a tiny bit of freelancing to help me cope with my Depression crawling into my mind.

Years again, I worked on myself and my writings, thanks to al my mentors who were with me on this journey. It was never even possible without the push from my dearest friends and well-wishers. I am still on my quest to learn much more and still I feel like I have an ocean to swim across. But yes !! I am quite determined.

On my birthday, I just missed my dad so much, as he was the one who wished me first. It is a long time, I know but because of his presence in my thoughts, i have pushed myself harder.  All these past five years from being 30 to 35, I have learned a lot.

Last year when i was just 34, i remember the impeding thoughts i had which I did scribble down.

Gained new friends

This year I had the pleasure of knowing many more people, who have become a part of me, swiftly. I love their company and the chatter Time I get with them, which brings back the fondest memories of my young age.

I realised how friends could stand with you during the thick and thin. Thanks to all.

I promise, wherever we are- we all will be the best of friends.

Realized people still utilize others

No lesson is perfect, without a shortcoming or a setback. Yea !! I too had moments wherein I felt being utilized a just thrown away like trash. It did hurt me a couple of time, but the writing did help me resurrect from all these dampening thoughts. I am still yet to learn a lot.

But yes, later did I realise that it was my fault, that I let people utilize me- it is their smartness and my stupidity.

This is life !!!

Attaining my long lost goals

Goals keep us moving. Without certain goals, I just feel empty. I do not set much, but I give a shot for everything that comes in my own way. I never felt guilty of doing so either. Getting into a job,a regular one apart from freelancing was my dream. At first, I was almost lost and imbalanced. But now I am gaining my balance slowly and steadily.

I always want to be an independent woman, who is strong and venturing. And I am proud to be one.

Published my book

Being an author, my dream is to publish. And thanks to NotionPress, their Xpress Publication helped me craft my “SoulRecitals” .

For those who want to read through my first ever collection – Please do buy it from Amazon-  Soul Recitals 

The book is also available on Notion Presshttps://notionpress.com/read/soul-recitals#predition

For all the new and upcoming writers like me, do not wait for your chance, just grab your opportunity to get published with NotionPress.

Being a mother as well as an office-goer

It is the hardest thing in my life- to stay away from my kids. But as the last year commenced, I was offered a job. A part of me wanted to do the job,  another part of me was shattered. Whilst I was amidst the chaotic thoughts, my mother reassured me, that I would never lose anything. And thanks to the company, I work with. Nowadays modern technology has simplified our daily lives.

I do miss a lot with them, but they never hated me or avoided me. I am still a part of their life.

Even though juggling a job and a home is not easy.

Struggles are never-ending. But I am proud to be what I am now.

May be not so successful ;

May be a lil vulnerable

May be lil adamant

May be a lil loving

Maybe a lil lost

Maybe a lil chaos

May be a lil strange

May be a lil sad

but I am a consolidated version of all!!

And as I conclude :

I have regained the confidence of being a mother, a woman of substance and strong enough to deal with anything that comes in my way.

So Finally Happy Bday to a New ME @ 35

 

LIFE IS LIKE AN EXAM – THEN WHY MANY FAIL?

Do you think life is an exam?

Then how do we go about dealing with the exam ?

Do you have a solid plan?

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MOTHERHOOD AND GUILT ARE INSEPARABLE

Motherhood is a delicate stretch in a woman’s life.  It goes with all twists and turns but in the end, all are great moms, not bad, not imperfect but the best moms for the child.

Read through my article for Candlesonline this week. Comments are invited moms…and parents. Thank you

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Harmonious Symphonies- Yet another Poem Compilation Published(Get it Free Today & Tomorrow)

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I call it an opportunity I grabbed.

When I joined Team Soulitaire it was something unknown to me. I was invited by Virat Tuli, who is a guiding force and a mentor for the group. Being an aspiring writer, I was just so excited to be in the group, even though i was not greatly active.

It was when we were all given an opportunity to submit poems to publish in Harmonious Symphonies. And I did not want to miss it. I did give four of my poems, which I had scribbled long back with the hope to get it published.

It was a long wait though.

And one fine morning I was taken by surprise with a participation certificate I received through email.

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My joy knew no bounds, seeing my name out there. Even though it was just partially fulfilling my dream, it was too exciting. I felt my heart pumped much more and I was in the seventh heaven.

Good News

The book is available on Kindle for free just for Today and Tomorrow – https://www.amazon.in/Harmonious-Symphonies-Team-Soulitaire-ebook/dp/B082RQ4SBV/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_pl_foot_top?ie=UTF8

The collection has poems from almost 25 authors and I am just one among them. Published by Half Baked Beans, it is indeed a great initiative to encourage new upcoming authors and poets.

Don’t forget to grab a copy and put a review. It will keep inspiring all the authors who are writing and aspiring to be.

Interesting Tips to Never Give up on yourself

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It is hard, yet not impossible !!

Yes, we all traverse through certain phases of life, where we tend to give up on ourselves. It is those moments when you feel, you are not doing the right thing, you just want to kill yourself or shut yourself into four walls and walk away from life. For a moment your thoughts are so clouded and nothing seems to be possible. It is a crucial moment , it passes too. But how?

Lets us walk through on situations we give up :

  1. Mostly we all give up , when we are into something new.
  2. We give up when we feel we don’t fit in.
  3. We give up when we are tired.
  4. Again, yet another reason we give up is when we are in a monotonous lifestyle.

If things were easier -it is not life.

If you want to get over a negative thought, then it is up to YOU. As there is none powerful than you around you. No one else can impress you or get you to keep moving ahead, other than you yourself.

All you need to do is talk to your self – there is none other to consult and convince sometimes. Even when we lead ourselves to talk to someone else, it is not going to help, because ultimately we do only what we want.

Focus and try to weigh the pros and cons of everything you do rather than giving up. Understand why you were failing and work on it. There is nothing unachievable with hard work. The key to anything is your attitude and hard work.

Before giving up, try why you were giving it up. If it is something you can work on, then it is always worth giving a try. Always a clear analysis gives you a  clear picture.

If you are doing something new, then you will be confronted by frowns , but can’t help it- either learn to wink it away or just stop doing. But what if you stop doing what you were up to, think who is on the loss? Is it them or you. Give priority to yourself (self-love is not harmful).

Grab your chances, there is no harm in taking a risk for once. Let people blabber. Those who cannot do, they just crib a lot than help you achieve it.

Keep a positive attitude toward things that are happening around you. It repels the negativeness around you.

It is all about choices- take it, you might not be lucky enough to get it next time.

As I was saying…

Never give up on things you do especially when you are objected by someone who may not even understand why you were doing it in the first place.

 

 

 

 

 

The 10 tips that helped me to decide to pursue a job after 10 years

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First, let me confess, It is not an easy decision as it sounds.

It took me a long pause to decide and thanks to my mom and kids, who helped me decide upon it.

Like all other moms, who are into staying at home after delivery, I too had so many thoughts about taking up a career. It was again a gush of emotions.

The guilt feelings that come along were:

  • I will miss the time with my kids.
  • I will miss everything
  • I will miss everything..

and I yes it was all that- I miss tagging in everything I thought about. It was not leading me anywhere positive.

When I consult anyone who knows me very well (i assume), they end up saying conflicting statements.

“you will get, you will do it easily – but yes, it might be difficult for kids”.

it also never led me anywhere.

All i wanted was someone telling me – I can do it, and I am not gonna miss anything because I will be working.

And yes, I heard them, from my kids and my mom. They were reassuring me with their words and my lil one with all the love. It did boost my confidence, sliding the guilt to the slight corner of my heart.

Even though I have all these contradictory thoughts, in my head, I was pretty confident in my own choices. I trust in everything that happens…

And finally, it was the day, when I was supposed to be starting my job(now 9 months to it though) – it swept away my sleep and i was filled with anxiety, but to my happiness, it all went well, rather better than expected.

Thanks to all who made me win the moment.

If i would say- every woman – needs a job or even pursue something that they love to do. It is not just independence that matters, it gives her joy, which knows no bounds. Give her the freedom to choose not permission.

She cannot do it alone, though – as she supports you, you(family, friends, colleagues)  also need to be supportive. Sometime she might be taking her baby steps after a long gap. Hold her and support her, give her space, she is sure to walk along.

My tips to women who are coming back to work

  1. Just relax, it is not a crime to get back to work.
  2. Seek help,  we need not be egoistic.
  3. Don’t strain yourself because only you are there to take care of yourself.
  4. Do not set too many high expectations, take small steps to achieve the big.
  5. Finish your chores, before you are overloaded – always expect the worst and enjoy the best( as a surprise).
  6. Being guilty is common- stop thinking about it and spend your time wisely.
  7. I always thought – my parents did work hard and earn enough to teach me and gain a good education- I should never let it go wasted.
  8. You are good – all you need is a little up-gradation – even an engine requires a service to restart, then why not us.
  9. Never shun away from learning new things.
  10. Network, network, and network- they just lead you or give you better insights.

As I was saying,

It took me a long time to realize that I was on my right path, but yes it took me to the right destiny at the right moment. Hence if you are still in the moderation time of your thoughts.- no worries you are just reaching right on time.

(have patience – the gift of motherhood)

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I was doing Injustice to my writings

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It’s maddening at times;

I felt I did deviate from my goals. I was someone who was into blogging for a long time (yea almost 8 years ). This year I promised myself to write more and enhance my writing. But again when I reviewed my last few weeks, I had done nothing.

And yes, it was an injustice to my own self.

The first thing that came into my mind was – I shouldn’t be doing this. How can I ever deviate from my passion? 

But yes, the other piece of me justified me, that I was over-occupied with work. This year, as I planned to take up new things , I did but it was only in the job front. A part of me felt I did injustice to my other half. These conflicting thoughts were raging and raiding my thoughts all the time.

Now even when my schedule is like in a pressure cooker, I am sitting here, jotting down my favorite nonsenses plugging in my favorite song in my ears, deafening my ears from the civilized me and my surroundings to jot down, my words.

Wow, I just feel so good now !!!

Finally, i am writing, something which my mind guides my mind blabbers and my lips don’t give away. I don’t know for how long, but I am going to keep up a schedule for myself and my blog. Maybe I may not have many readers , who are expecting me…

but, I just want to scribble again.. be like the wildflower who can drift away anytime.

I remember many times, I have asked my friends to do things, that they love. And here I m partially not doing it all the time.

But yes, I was not completely away from scribbling my thoughts. I kept scribbling in my Instagram account (follow me, if you still want to be connected with me) every now and then.

But, yeah… let me take things lil seriously now.

I am planning to scribble anything at least once in a week (time out of my personal and work). I am sharing it with you all my fellow writers and readers, so that, I would keep up the promise to myself. Yes, you guessed it right, I am too much bad in keeping up promises with me.

But not this time !!!

Thank you for being with me all the time.

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