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How life in this pandemic changing me ?

Ever since 2020 began, life is not just going normal. We are trying to adapt to new things, something is changing but some remain the same.

Ever thought, that one single thing arrives and the whole world changes drastically. If you are looking into the negative sides you might still stumble upon a few more to think upon. But why go for negativity, when we have loads of positivity to search for.

The Beginning

I quite remember the early December in 2019 when in news they showed about corona virus and how people were suffering in China. At that moment like any other, I too thought it was fake or something, not gonna be arriving in India. But then to my shock, everything began to change tremendously. This deadly virus arrived in the city, it created panic and tension. I remember the very last day I was sending my daughters to school, with all those hand sanitizers and all… It is all like yesterday.

This virus, burst like hell and broke my lil one’s best graduation event too. I just hated those things. But what to do, have to live .. than be saddened upon these things.

Ever since March, we all were just indoors, not going anywhere but staying under the same roof for a longer and longer time. Sometimes, time begins to eat our patience, as we all are never being together in space like this. It was indeed difficult.

New habits, new things and much more.

I was scared that my kids are gonna be TV addicts and I am gonna be much more stout and plump that I wont be able to get out of that door. Panic dreams and scary dreams haunted me day and night.

Never knew we all could survive these 7 months like this and gonna survive much more…

The first few days went well.. but then work, household work, kids boredom everything began to eat my patience a lot. Moreover doing nothing, my weight also began to revolt. And over this, the news about the spread was much more frightening. All I could wonder was how people are so careless…

It is truly said that when you don’t feel good from within, the whole world outside you is also gonna tumble down.

Hence What I did was…

The very first thing I did was, completely take myself away from this news and media, which was anyways not doing them justice and creating panic more.

Once I did this, I was far away from collapsing.

The next thing I did was focus on myself… I started to work out, eat right and focus on being a healthy mind and body. In this venture, I included my kids too, started doing fun workouts with them, which in turn helped me and them and I got plenty of quality time with them, which I don’t say at all.

Decided to read more books, hence brought the same. Even indulged in making my kids find healthy reading habits too. Moreover, it helped my daughters to improve themselves in this period.

Vacation which prolonged a lot, we utilized teaching our mother tongue to my kids, which again came out well maybe not exemplary but yes Good for me.

We went for walks together, spend quality time playing together caroms, badminton, and much more… which was indeed fun. It kept my brain and heart happier. Even I got the opportunity to learn cycling and include it in my healthy regime to continue my journey to fitness dedicatedly.

The important thing we did was sticking to a routine, no matter its holiday or not, we ensured we get up early, finish everything on time and then sit to work or study or even for being free. This helped us in a great deal and saved much of my time.

So overall, this pandemic brought me so many things in surplus with my dear ones and that makes me happier. Although there are other things I miss, then we all are in a virtual world, things are turning well. At least we can work remotely, be in touch with friends who were long gone from our life for a while, learn new things and also be around our kids and watch them grow.

So If I put everything together:

  1. Self-love and self-motivation.
  2. Fix a routine.
  3. Be with family.
  4. Count your blessings
  5. Fix your time and schedule to ensure you get plenty of time free or to do what you love.
  6. Sleep well.. sleep enough not too much.
  7. Be happy.
  8. Take up a new hobby or get back to your favourite niche.
  9. Be healthy.
  10. Be positive.

It is rightly said,

Everything is a blessing in disguise

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Let me distract you

Do you relate to this??
Yes, indeed i believe. At least 70%of them get distracted many times a day.
For me, i am lost most of the time..either in my own illusions or confusions..and sometimes both come together that i wonder whats reality.
Amidst my chores, my work, my routines..i am distracted a lot.
For a moment i am here..and then i am gone. Somewhere.
Nowhere to be known…
Again here i am distracted from my own words….
But what causes distraction..is its lack of interest..or lack of concentration.

As kids we might also have been unhinged by multiple things happening outside and truly takes our mind off from what we are focusing on…
My lil one..keeps wandering physically and mentally every time she is up to doing something.
And it is hard to bring her back to what she is doing…
But again..at times she surprises me with her engrossed behavior especially when she is up to mischief.
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So how can we work on it?
As @robinsharma  said…you can train your monkey mind to come back each time it deviates and then try to reduce the number of hops you make.
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Am working on it too..
Let’s all do it unanimously.
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Kudos to the monkey minds.
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Soulrecitals
#sreepriyawrites
#soulrecitals #myrandomthoughts #robinsharma #whowillcrywhenyoudie

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How to write a journal and how it will benefit you ?

Recently i heard my daughter’s English teacher telling her students about diary writing etc. And my curious mind.. or call it a monkey mind, wandered into her class. The teacher advised students to write a journal or make a diary note every day by end of the day (EOD) . It just reminded me of my childhood days wherein I always cherished the joy of writing or call t scribbling, in a diary. My dad used to get me some beautiful diary. It was always filled with lots of information and facts and much more. The diary word filled my world with nostalgia. It reminded my childhood days when I started to scribble something, whatever that comes to my mind.

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Ever since then my daughter began to write her diary every day. She writes and shares with me, and ask for suggestions. Being a mom, I felt i should help her fill those diary pages, with some thoughtful reflection. I told her, “you write down the mistakes, the good the bad whatever you think into these pages..and then if you have done, make corrections to what you did and mention the same.” I told her, even to note down the reaction she received upon doing that act. All I wanted her to do was to remember the lesson, the lesson she learned that day.

I was glad reading her entries as they were truthful and honest. It was something I didn’t tell her, but she did on her own.

So have you ever written a journal?

If you have not, let us see why you need it?

A journal helps you to achieve what you want to change or polish in a better way.

It will help you :

  • To identify the negative thoughts.
  • Also to express negative emotions which we technically hide
  • Helps you to set goals and work on it.
  • If you are in some arguments, while writing it down, you get to think on another perspective.
  • You also get to check on your setbacks and even progress clearly.

If you want to start writing a journal – Stick to the habit and never quit. It needs commitment and honesty very much.

Now how to begin with

You can start writing by answering these questions like :

  • How am I feeling right now?
  • What did I do today?
  • What are my plans for today?
  • What mistakes I did and how did i correct it?
  • What did I read/listen to?
  • How did I help my family?
  • What better I can do?

Start writing and work on your goals and perspectives.

If you find it difficult to write, then at least try to start with something casual, and surely you will end up writing well. Some people have also turned their journal into a blog. It is also an ideal way.

So let us start writing and keep a journal.

All the best folks !!

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Being dad

Being a dad is not easy.
Right.
I don’t know actually..because I am a mother and some times..emotionally all support to me..maybe because dads are stronger or depict only stronger side..and mom is delicately stronger.

A dad holds the kids in an invisible manner. He may be tough outside and even show no pain or any kind of emotion like being estranged from life.

But still, he worries for you, care for you in a different way which you might not be about to figure out as a child..but will eventually get to know.

Today while u was holding my kid on the cycle…only my mother’s instinct worked..i was in a tendency to hold her…but when it was him…he focused letting her drive away…and he was right..i was holding her and causing her fall.
And yeah she learned with her father..thats best for her.
It is hard for me.to watch them skate or cycle..because half my concentration is on them and I am always in an alert state.
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Soulrecitals
#sreepriyawrites
#beingdad

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Does Menstrual cup get lost in the vagina?

Dont worry, Menstrual cup did not get lost in the vagina.. as for me.

Like all others, even I was using sanitary pads ever since I had periods, hence was indeed reluctant to try something new. Even when the pads used to quite itchy to my tender skin, i used to continue using the same. I remember once in Swiss, i had to use Tampons, but that itself was a hard task for me. It took me half an hour to find the holes :P.

Trust me… until then, I never knew, we females have such a complicated body. Imagine hours spend inside the toilet, just to find the hole to insert the menstrual cup took up my patience.

So Why I began to use Menstrual cup?

Not long ago, yea just years before I knew this menstrual cup ever existed through my mom and so many women bloggers and vloggers who have shared so many informative things. But thanks to my laziness, I never bothered to try it until last year. I ended up buying a menstrual cup, which looked too big for me. I kept looking at its size, wondering, how I will fit it inside my body.

And Like always, I just ended up dumping it in my cupboard, because of my lack of patience and more like a reluctance to let something foreign enter my body. Months went by and i brought one more menstrual cup, assuming that I was wrong about the size I purchased, but again did not use it at all.

Finally, my bestie, who comes as a saviour in all the situation came up suddenly, like a lightning and explained to me and shared her joy of using the menstrual cup. And yes, her words are like words from heaven for me. So I decided to give a try again. And this time a lil wholeheartedly.

After a long discussion with her and burdening her with all my silly thoughts which she patiently answers always, I brought another menstrual cup ( same as hers, just to ensure I don’t fail this time ).

Before the periods arrived I sat with my mom, discussing the pros and cons of the same. And yes pros were indeed weighing higher. We belong to a small village in Kerala, hence waste management is not that prominent, and, these sanitary pads, i had to burn in the backyard which was never a good thing to do. So mostly I was little reluctant to travel to my hometown these days. And even here in Bangalore, it is not easy, I felt, hence decided to give a try for no waste menstrual time. This again affirmed my thoughts on using Menstrual cup.

Finally, Day Arrived.

Since it was the first time, I had to mentally prepare my self. I went in with the cup and decided to give a try. First, two-three attempts went in vain, as my mind was repelling and hence my body. Almost one moment I was about to give up and use the sanitary pad again.. but then I decided to give a final try.

And yea Eureka. !!!! I did it.

It was comfortably inserted into my vagina… And I was comfortable better than I expected. I just came out of the bathroom and immediately message my bestie lot many thanks.

So Now the hurdle time :

Insertion drama over, now how to remove was yet another though stirring my mind. But actually, it wasn’t hard as I expected it should be. Moreover, my mind wanted to push it out sooner than getting it inside.

Later my first day went well. The next day since the flow was higher, i had to be careful, but I did spill it when i took it out. Hence if you are trying for the first time, ensure that you change the cup multiple times when you have a heavy flow.

Minimum 4-5 hours is ideal, it is better to change and wash and then use again after a couple of hours.

At first, it was indeed difficult for me to even going to the toilet, but then gradually I was comfortable and used to. Now I can say, I am living with it. With the second period cycle, I was so comfy, that I do it with lightning speed.

So here are a few things that I felt, it is important to share with you all ladies :

  1. You might not get it in the first attempt.
  2. Never give up, it is not rocket science.
  3. The cup is not going to get vanished into the vagina ..so chill.
  4. Use the right cup that suits you, hence buy it carefully. I would recommend U shaped ones, as they are ideal to lock in when inserting.
  5. No leakage .. so it’s perfect. hence no stain on panties. ( something I worry a lot) . Yes, I did use a sanitary pad, for a couple of times, but then now I guess I don’t need them now.
  6. I could sleep peacefully at night, as no worries of overflowing.
  7. For Some the stem might be prickly, in that case , read that you can trim it too to suit your need.
  8. Going to the loo, won’t be a problem, Do give a try.
  9. Make sure, you clean it with warm water well.
  10. When it comes to folding the menstrual cup, for me the C folding didn’t work, hence I recommend.
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10. Have loads of patience with the first try . And it’s not dirty, it’s hygienic. Think it that way before you use.

I hope this will help you.

A change is inevitable, when you can see, that it is ideal for you and nature. So never hesitate on the same. 

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