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Being dad

Being a dad is not easy.
Right.
I don’t know actually..because I am a mother and some times..emotionally all support to me..maybe because dads are stronger or depict only stronger side..and mom is delicately stronger.

A dad holds the kids in an invisible manner. He may be tough outside and even show no pain or any kind of emotion like being estranged from life.

But still, he worries for you, care for you in a different way which you might not be about to figure out as a child..but will eventually get to know.

Today while u was holding my kid on the cycle…only my mother’s instinct worked..i was in a tendency to hold her…but when it was him…he focused letting her drive away…and he was right..i was holding her and causing her fall.
And yeah she learned with her father..thats best for her.
It is hard for me.to watch them skate or cycle..because half my concentration is on them and I am always in an alert state.
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Does Menstrual cup get lost in the vagina?

Dont worry, Menstrual cup did not get lost in the vagina.. as for me.

Like all others, even I was using sanitary pads ever since I had periods, hence was indeed reluctant to try something new. Even when the pads used to quite itchy to my tender skin, i used to continue using the same. I remember once in Swiss, i had to use Tampons, but that itself was a hard task for me. It took me half an hour to find the holes :P.

Trust me… until then, I never knew, we females have such a complicated body. Imagine hours spend inside the toilet, just to find the hole to insert the menstrual cup took up my patience.

So Why I began to use Menstrual cup?

Not long ago, yea just years before I knew this menstrual cup ever existed through my mom and so many women bloggers and vloggers who have shared so many informative things. But thanks to my laziness, I never bothered to try it until last year. I ended up buying a menstrual cup, which looked too big for me. I kept looking at its size, wondering, how I will fit it inside my body.

And Like always, I just ended up dumping it in my cupboard, because of my lack of patience and more like a reluctance to let something foreign enter my body. Months went by and i brought one more menstrual cup, assuming that I was wrong about the size I purchased, but again did not use it at all.

Finally, my bestie, who comes as a saviour in all the situation came up suddenly, like a lightning and explained to me and shared her joy of using the menstrual cup. And yes, her words are like words from heaven for me. So I decided to give a try again. And this time a lil wholeheartedly.

After a long discussion with her and burdening her with all my silly thoughts which she patiently answers always, I brought another menstrual cup ( same as hers, just to ensure I don’t fail this time ).

Before the periods arrived I sat with my mom, discussing the pros and cons of the same. And yes pros were indeed weighing higher. We belong to a small village in Kerala, hence waste management is not that prominent, and, these sanitary pads, i had to burn in the backyard which was never a good thing to do. So mostly I was little reluctant to travel to my hometown these days. And even here in Bangalore, it is not easy, I felt, hence decided to give a try for no waste menstrual time. This again affirmed my thoughts on using Menstrual cup.

Finally, Day Arrived.

Since it was the first time, I had to mentally prepare my self. I went in with the cup and decided to give a try. First, two-three attempts went in vain, as my mind was repelling and hence my body. Almost one moment I was about to give up and use the sanitary pad again.. but then I decided to give a final try.

And yea Eureka. !!!! I did it.

It was comfortably inserted into my vagina… And I was comfortable better than I expected. I just came out of the bathroom and immediately message my bestie lot many thanks.

So Now the hurdle time :

Insertion drama over, now how to remove was yet another though stirring my mind. But actually, it wasn’t hard as I expected it should be. Moreover, my mind wanted to push it out sooner than getting it inside.

Later my first day went well. The next day since the flow was higher, i had to be careful, but I did spill it when i took it out. Hence if you are trying for the first time, ensure that you change the cup multiple times when you have a heavy flow.

Minimum 4-5 hours is ideal, it is better to change and wash and then use again after a couple of hours.

At first, it was indeed difficult for me to even going to the toilet, but then gradually I was comfortable and used to. Now I can say, I am living with it. With the second period cycle, I was so comfy, that I do it with lightning speed.

So here are a few things that I felt, it is important to share with you all ladies :

  1. You might not get it in the first attempt.
  2. Never give up, it is not rocket science.
  3. The cup is not going to get vanished into the vagina ..so chill.
  4. Use the right cup that suits you, hence buy it carefully. I would recommend U shaped ones, as they are ideal to lock in when inserting.
  5. No leakage .. so it’s perfect. hence no stain on panties. ( something I worry a lot) . Yes, I did use a sanitary pad, for a couple of times, but then now I guess I don’t need them now.
  6. I could sleep peacefully at night, as no worries of overflowing.
  7. For Some the stem might be prickly, in that case , read that you can trim it too to suit your need.
  8. Going to the loo, won’t be a problem, Do give a try.
  9. Make sure, you clean it with warm water well.
  10. When it comes to folding the menstrual cup, for me the C folding didn’t work, hence I recommend.
This Is Exactly How You Should Be Folding Your Menstrual Cup | Bloom

10. Have loads of patience with the first try . And it’s not dirty, it’s hygienic. Think it that way before you use.

I hope this will help you.

A change is inevitable, when you can see, that it is ideal for you and nature. So never hesitate on the same. 

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Emptiness

A feel that kills half the souls.
Ever felt being empty??
The emptiness that is unexplainable.
It’s like you are not sad..nor happy.. can laugh ..can even cry…
But you are not depressed.
You are just in a state, where you feel nothing but just lost.
All you want to ..is disappear suddenly.
But again you want to be found.
Is it because you felt so much…in life..that suddenly nothing seems to cause any impact.
Or is it the loneliness that makes you feel so.

When someone asks me..what do i feel.
I just go blank..as if, am i dont remember what is going on with me…
Is it worst??
I dont know.
But all i know is i hate that feeling.
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A Mango bite tale

Wanna bite..grab a mango bite.!!

Tanvi, a little girl from the slum…her everyday routine begins with her mom who was working as a maid in other posh apartments. Wherever her mom went, she accompanied her. The only thing her mother warned her was not to touch anything in those places. Tanvi knew her mom, so she never violated her mom’s words, even when someone offered her sweets she was hesitant.
The only thing that she waited for was the little mango bite her mom gives at the end of the day when they return home.
Every day, once her mom is done with all work, in the evening they walk by a tea stall..which is lined up with small toffees and cigarette packets. Her mom stops by for a glass of tea there waiting for her other friends who were also working in the apartment to come by.
The shop keeper Ram was quite friendly and every day offered her a mango bite..which she repays with a smile.
The moment she reaches the shop, she will be sifting around for her toffee. And before her gaze wanders away, Ram jumps out with a toffee. Her smile for the same brought immeasurable happiness to him.

And one day it all changed. As she stood there with her mom one day, there was no Ram and no mango bite. There was just another ugly looking man who stood staring at her as if she was a thief.
Days went by, she started to worry, as Ram never turned up…
And finally gave up her patience and asked her mom.
She received only silence.
That day, her mom did not take her along.
By evening when she returned.
She took Tanvi’s tiny hands and placed a mango bite…
And said.
Ram was no more now..he is gone far far away from all of us.

She held that mango bite tightly and gazed into those lonely corners which answered her nothing.

But life moved on.
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Engaging younger kids

What to do when your elder one has a lot to study and the younger one is all free.
Hard thing to decide upon…right?
Having two kids is indeed fun ..since most of the time i need not focus on them and they will manage on their own. Playing time its ideal, they both want to be together all the time.
But when it comes to studying…it is hard as the younger one is still too small to have too much to study.
When i ask my younger one to study something just to give her elder one company… A part of me says “it’s ok to let her study, else she will disturb the other ” ..another piece of me says ” oh!! Com’ on…she is too small to strain like this”… Conflicting thoughts are common in me and am always a scapegoat in this matter. Finally, before i decide..she leaves her book and walks away…looking at me with a look.. ” amma no more studying..am done”… Then again i just ignore my inner voices…and continue guilt-free.
It is hard to keep the younger one engaged.. usually, i just leave it to her..giving her a restriction that she should not disturb her sister…and then she targets me or her dad..who seems to be jobless for her.
This is the time, i get to think should i have one more kid..but another piece of me..kicks away that thought readily. 

Actually better not to think how to keep them busy, they are better off idle..as i see her finding out things to do on her own, and it’s much more interesting to watch…
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