Don’t typecast

Girls are not someones lucky charm of somethings that people assume. If she wants to stay fit and fine or dress up or may just enjoy being herself or pursue what she likes, it’s her choice. She is not doing kt to grab attention or show someone she is good. It might be her personal choice.  Respect her as an individual, she is not any guys lucky charm or anything like a jewel to be flaunted.
She does whatever she likes to feel confident about. So respect her for what she is not something…like whom she belongs to.
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Soulrecitals
#sreepriyawrites #herstory #beingher #respecther

Be a listener to your child too

Forget a lot many dreams, what about just one dream, how a normal, average family can fulfill just one of her random wishes.

When I watched the movie “KAPPELA” (Malayalam), it triggered my thoughts. How a girl from a small town comes to a city just to meet a stranger. Strangely she confesses her dreams to an unknown person and only her friend to see a beach. And then she ends up in troubles unimaginable.

Why couldn’t she even ask her parents?

Why she had to even depend on a guy from outside or someone, not her family?

The movie also portrays the scene when the father beats up the little sister, without even asking her an explanation, assuming that she did wrong. Does really beating up, bring up the right kind of well-behaved, girl child. No, you can also instill trust in them, a feeling that no matter what, happens, their parents are strong enough to support them.

Why does a little baby, clings to their mother, all the time, because it trusts the mother. A caregiving hand, which protects her, the baby can even blindly cling to its mom, no matter what happens, because it knows, that protection is intact.  But as it grows up, the child loses that grip with the parents, when it was abandoned even once for a single moment knowingly or unknowingly.

Restore that trust in your child, else you lose them.

Is it a mistake or a strict parenting method?

I do not know. But I feel that it is important for families to give space to their kids to explain their dreams, desires, and needs. Else kids have a tendency to walk to a stranger, who might be a danger or a blessing.

It is not about a city or town, parents who are so glued to their work-life forget that their children for whom they are brooding all the money for, also want them to talk to them and share some time with them.

We can see parents are mostly hardworking and spending each penny carefully, but they are too strict with the kids that make them much more vulnerable. Parents assume that being strict is good, but sometimes, they need to place themselves in their kid’s minds and see what they might need from you.

Some parents, they beat up the girl child, for just talking to boys. Talking never harms or causes any problem, but the child begins to wonder why she was beaten up for doing nothing. This gets rooted in her mind. And since the human mind is more inclined to do wrong things (labeled by society), they tend to do it much more to agitate their anger and frustration.

The child becomes secluded and stops sharing even the tiniest desire they have because they are scared of being judged or scolded or even punished. They start to hide, as their tiniest desires are never being heard and then begins the time when they find their own way out.

Parenting is hard and complicated. , but not impossible.

Be the parent who can help the child open up to you than anyone else. Be the friend who they need and want.

Most of the girls tend to be quiet and start to hide everything from the parents, when they feel that they are judged.  Be the one who listens to her dream or even walks with her to fulfill it. We may not know what things pop up in life, but always, be a good listener. Listen to your child’s argument before jumping into the conclusion. Open up for a healthy discussion- means a clear wheel of conversation wherein you just don’t talk alone but discuss and let the other person put in their share of words too.

Your child may be small, but learn to give your ear to them. Once ignored, they are never going to back.

 

Being her

She was stoned for being different.
Blamed being a different shade. …
All she did was she fell in love with life with everything she saw..
She cherished every moment, without judging it to be right or wrong.
She was never in her tribe, but with the wanderers…
As they showed her the dreams, she wanted.
Her tribe unwelcomed her, every time.
Hence she became, what she actually wants.
She was a free bird.
But chained to the soil, for all unwanted reasons…
Her tribe was jealous of her freedom,
And she was caged again.
Gluing her to the deeply rooted illusions of life.
And there she remained.
Greying until death…
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Soulrecitals
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Look at the bright side

When you feel that your time is going bad, just think of the bright side. If you have a job, family, can smile even for a moment, have food at least a bite to share, or even for you to eat, a shelter to sleep in, then you are always on the better side.
Don’t lose hope, when you are on a rope..you have miles to walk before you give up.
Live the moment, stop complaining.
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Soulrecitals
#sreepriyawrites #goodmorning #nevergiveup #lookonthebrightside

Was it chocolate or you ?

Every bite of it reminds me of you.
Was it the flavor of the chocolate or you in it, that tasted like heaven to me.
I do know, it was you.
The flavor of my life, which makes everything worthwhile.
Every moment is significant for me.
When i am in your arms.
Its like magic around.
As every single worry,
Vanquish and vanish away.
With you even my sleep becomes ecstatic.
You are like the drop, of rain, that quenches my every thirst.
With you, i am filled and fulfilled…
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.soulrecitals
#sreepriyawrites #lovepoems #chocolate #lovers