I am not so good at goodbyes.
Some partings …are helpful. ;)…and easy to say ..because its just getting rid of people…but some good byes are painful…because we don’t want to part with our loved ones.
My lovely lil daughter , is realizing the parting dilemmas , she is in a stage now to realize what exactly ‘good byes’ mean. I have noticed that , whenever she is back from her school,, and bids good byes to her friends , she hated it so much. She never wanted to be away from them, but later on things changed, she realized that its not a leave taking , but a small bye for a short time and she will be meeting them again.
Later she started to take such things lightly and enjoyed waving her hands to her friends to say good bye and meet them again later. Whenever her dad leaves for office , earlier she enjoyed to wave him bye-bye , but now , she knows that those bye-byes…. are meant for a little longer time for him to come back, ,and she will not get him to play with ,and now she likes to wait for her dad to be back home , she keeps checking the footsteps and keep asking me “who is coming” and waits for me to tell her that its her dad.
The same magic applied, ‘the wait for something ‘, when her grandparents left, we told her ,, in order for her to chat with them again, they have to go and so she consoled herself .
Its so appreciative to see kids admire people in their life and value them.
In my early years , I always hated the idea of cooking and was rather interested in eating whatever my mom cooked.
I thought marriage was dangerous , as I will have to cook all the time and the worst of all what will be the condition of who eats it. But who can stop the destiny , I got married . 😦 , them the initial stage of cooking was like all trial and error , as I wasn’t sure what to make and how to make and as all newly weds have , I too had lot many confusions in my mind.
Luckily , in some or the other way , some dishes came out well , so I was kind of relaxed ,but always got tensed when I had guests at home. Cooking was kind of curiosity , until I see a smile from my husbands face after he has the first bite of it , I am always worried ,since he checks whether the food is appetizing . I am thankful for that , he was the one who motivated me in cooking , as all other people , I too loved to be praised for what i did. 🙂
And now cooking has become a passion, as I wanted to make something always special for my daughter. I love to see her eat what I cook and when she says “its delicious mama ” , I am happy. That is more than any other appreciation I have ever received.
I was someone , who hated the idea of cleaning and cooking , but now am someone who insist to do it, as I don’t want her to learn bad things from me and I have to set a good example for her .
Children learn from what we do , rather than what we tell them , they should do.
Can anyone memorize all things that happened in their life ? Am sure that most powerful memories out of them will be the worst and the extremely happiest ones , where we almost had a rush of adrenaline. 🙂
Its not that some people ( especially women , who memorizes dates too ) have strong memory power, its just that , they all have strong feelings attached to it. How does parents never forget their kids birthday , or even their exact feeling when their kids were born . its because they have the strongest memory of the things happened.
When there is an interest and an enthusiasm to do any thing in life, that memory stays forever with us. Even when we work harder to reach our goal, that brings a special happiness in us, how can someone forget that?
Its the same with heartbreaking memories too, mostly we humans can memorize all worst feelings rather than the best in our life.Its up to us to how we deal with worst memories, either avoid such things to happen again , or else , learn from it.
Sometimes remembering is easier ,and forgetting them are tougher. 🙂